Raising Kids in the Foreign Service

The following chapters are many and stand alone, but also work well as a cohesive whole.

  1. Congratulations: You’re Raising a TCK! by Patricia Linderman
  2. Bombay baby: Pregnancy Abroad by Karryn Miller
  3. Right Next Door But Worlds Away: Our Adoption Story by Gretel Backman Patch
  4. Overseas Schools: A Parent’s Guide by Anne Allen Sillivan
  5. British School Overseas by Katie Jagelski
  6. French School Overseas by Rory Burnham Pickett
  7. Looking at the Boarding School Option by Rebecca Grappo
  8. Homeschooling in the Foreign Service: Doubly Unusual! by Amy Macy
  9. U.S. College Admission and the Foreign Service Teen by Francesca Huemer Kelly
  10. Comparing Advanced Placement and International Baccalaureate
  11. Gifted and Talented Children in the Foreign Service by Leah Moorfield Evans
  12. The Art of Acquiring a Second Language by Jen Kirk Dinoia
  13. Living Overseas When Your Child has Special Needs by Lauren Salazar
  14. When Kids Struggle Overseas by Rebecca Grappo
  15. Raising a Child with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder by Laurie Kelleher
  16. Prepare Before You Hit the Air: Going Abroad with your Special Needs Child by Michelle Grappo
  17. Staying Safe While Living Abroad by Shelly Goode-Burgoyne
  18. Saying Cheers In three Languages: Foreign Service Kids Talk About Alcohol by Laura Tasharski
  19. Tandem Couples and Kids by Amy and Joshua Archibald
  20. The Single Parent and the Foreign Service by Tamara Shie
  21. How to Manage Parenting and Working in the Foreign Service by Marcelle Yeager
  22. Joy for a Dime and a song: A Case for a Washington, D.C., Tour with Children by Laura Merzig Fabrycky
  23. An Unacompanied Tour by Amanda Fernandez
  24. Mothering Across the Miles by Anne Aguilera
  25. Transitions with Kids by Lexy Boudreau
  26. Traveling with Kids by Ana Gabriela Turner
  27. Starting New by Miriam Engstrom
  28. The Ties that RemindL Maintaining a Connection to the Home You Left Behind by Julie Tully
  29. Tame that Clutter and Make your Move Easier! by Tara Kniew-Fraiture
  30. The Oxygen Mask – Mindfulness for Foreign Service Parents by Jodi Harris
  31. Patchwork Parenting, Quilted Kids by Laura Tasharski
  32. Resources for Parents in the Foreign Service by Nicole Schaefer-McDaniel

The Globally Mobile Family’s Guide to Educating Children Overseas

This up-to-date look at all the education options available to globally mobile families is a fairly quick read but surprisingly comprehensive. For parents wanting to know all the options and their pros and cons, I would highly recommend Wrobbel’s book. She takes an honest look at each option and gives her experienced opinion in an unbiased manner. The appendices at the end also offer helpful education resources.

The chapters include:

  1. So You’re Moving Overseas
  2. Intentional Planning for Children’s Education Overseas
  3. International Schools
  4. Host-Country Schools
  5. Homeschooling
  6. Distance Education
  7. Boarding School
  8. One-Room School or Homeschool Cooperative
  9. Special Education Needs
  10. Transitioning Between Educational Options
  11. Educational Planning for the Transition to University and Adulthood
  12. Living and Thriving in the Host Culture

TCKs: A Gift To Care For

“TCKs: A Gift To Care For” is an excellent addition to comprehensive books about TCKs. I would say this differs from Pollock and Van Reken’s classic “Third Culture Kids” book in that there is a focus on developmental stages, child psychology and it includes many many practical activities for parents to do with their children. These activities help children to integrate experiences and thoughts into their bodies for a holistic approach to TCK care.

This book is on the larger side (405 pages) which may seem daunting, but it’s used best when you pick and choose the chapters that are relevant to you and your kids. You don’t need to read the whole thing at once but look for the information and activities that are best suited to your current needs. And then open the book again later when you want something else!

Included in the chapters sections are:

  1. A Gift to Care For
  2. Transitions and Emotions
  3. Identity and Beliefs
  4. Relationships and Globalization
  5. Stress and Structure
  6. Grief and Joy
  7. Developmental and Long-term Goals
  8. Protection and Boundaries
  9. Debriefing and Storytelling
  10. The Power of Getting Together
  11. What Can We Do?

Available in English and Swedish now with Portuguese, Chinese, Spanish coming soon.

 

The Third Culture Teen

This book explores what life is like as a TCK who has left their family of origin and is now on their own, still in the process of “adulting.” The challenges they face can be significantly different than those of  Adult TCKs, and it is important for them and those in their lives to be able to address them appropriately.

While it doesn’t replace the classic Pollock and Van Reken TCK book, its narrower focus will help you understand the specific needs of Third Culture Teens. It’s very readable, including some of the author’s own personal experiences, but it also draws from important literature on TCKs.

The following sections are included:

  1.  Third Culture Kid & The Third Culture Teen
  2. The Issues We Face
  3. The Life We Are Living
  4. The Life We Will Live
  5. Conclusion & Additional Resources

The Grief Tower: A Practical Guide to Processing Grief with Third Culture Kids

This is a short but eminently practical book about helping Third Culture Kids process emotions related to grief and trauma.  Lauren Wells, herself an adult TCK, applies research on the impact of Adverse Childhood Events (ACEs) to TCK experience, noting the various types of experiences that may leave TCKs with unresolved grief and pain.

She then uses the term Grief Tower to paint a picture of how painful experiences may stack up when TCKs don’t have the opportunity or support to process them.  And what happens when the tower gets too high?  It comes crashing down, making a tremendous mess!  To prevent that, Lauren offers practical activities parents and TCKs can do to purposefully deconstruct those Grief Towers piece by piece.

This little book is quick and easy to read, and whether you are an expat parent, a professional working with TCKs, or even a TCK yourself, it is well worth your time.

Third Culture Kids: Aufwachsen in mehreren Kulturen

Ob in der Auslands-Niederlassung einer Firma, einer Missionsstation oder einer diplomatischen Vertretung – jährlich steigt die Zahl der Kinder, die in unterschiedlichen Kulturkreisen aufwachsen. Authentisch und sorgfältig recherchiert beschreibt dieses Buch, was das Leben dieser sogenannten ‘Third Culture Kids’ ausmacht, welchen besonderen Problemen sie begegnen und welche speziellen Chancen sich ihnen eröffnen. Denn unmittelbarer als ihre Altersgenossen lernen diese Kinder sowohl die Freuden des Entdeckens als auch die Erfahrungen schmerzhaften Verlustes kennen. Es gelten andere Gesetze für ihren Reifungsprozess, sie gehen andere Wege auf der Suche nach ihrer Identität und sie sind herausgefordert, jenseits aller Ortswechsel eine Heimat zu finden. In Interviews, Gedichten und Berichten lassen Pollock und Van Reken die TCKs zu Wort kommen. Aus ihren Zeugnissen arbeiten sie die charakterlichen und emotionalen Grundstrukturen heraus, die Kinder mit diesem Hintergrund in der Mehrzahl entwickeln.


This is the German edition of THIRD CULTURE KIDS by David Pollock & Ruth Van Reken